Are you a woman who loves to feel empowered, motivated, and encouraged to fulfill your goals? While this may be something you like feeling, sometimes you learn that what you want is not a priority with others.
So, when you feel a little shortchanged that you seem to be giving all of your time to everyone else and not taking any time for yourself, you shouldn’t feel guilty about experiencing these emotions.
At some point in your life you have to take control of your mind, body, and spirit and understand you have desires that need to be met along with the rest of the people in your life. When you realize this, you can begin to understand Amanda Boleyn, co-founder of the She Did It Her Way podcast which has been featured in Entrepreneur, Inc, Huffington Post, and Forbes.
Amanda Boleyn strikes hard on the issues women face silently, and sometimes alone, to help them enact a forward progress towards taking back their individuality in a world which seems to undervalue and take for granted. Here are Amanda’s top three points for caring for yourself and staying a positive woman.
Stop Overthinking It
As a woman, one of the faults we have is overanalyzing something.
Amanda’s first tip is this: You don’t need to know the answer to every riddle or question that comes across your life situation on any given day.
Thoughts, especially negative thoughts, can hamper your mood and can affect the way your entire day is lived if you take heed to them. It doesn’t mean you won’t have these kinds of thoughts or worries, it just means you shouldn’t spend your energy wasting time trying to figure it out.
There are some things which are better left undone and unsaid and it’s not up to you to overthink it. This kind of analyzing can sometimes lead to trouble, and when you allow these thoughts to become the source of food that you mentally eat from every day, you can miss out on the amazing journey that life is throwing at you. Sure, some days it may seem life is throwing up on you, but you can’t try to figure out why.
In short, don’t let it affect you. Worrying about it never solved anything. It doesn’t change the fact of the matter and there’s no use to continually grope after an answer which simply isn’t there.
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
Life isn’t a beauty contest.
Stop comparing yourself to others. And when I say others, I mean other women. When you begin to compare yourself to other people, you are robbing your own individuality and uniqueness.
In fact, I guarantee you if you compared “you” to someone right now, you could find a lot of fault in yourself. It’s not a healthy way to live your life. Amanda explains that you need to continually focus on yourself and your own personal goals and stop wondering whether or not you should dye your hair blonde because Jenny “looks amazing” to you.
You are stealing attention away from you when you give it to someone else and this isn’t a healthy attitude to have. Start thinking about what you want to do, not because you feel like you’re being pressured to do something, but because it’s something you truly want for yourself.
This is the pathway to taking back your individuality and the opportunity to make more time for yourself. Everyone has their own path to follow and you may not realize what Jenny is thinking when she gets home and looks in the mirror at the new hair style she hates.
When you stop comparing yourself to everyone else, you begin to forge a path for yourself. This is the essential qualities of a leader and you can only do that when you are confident in your own choices and decisions.
Know Your Strengths
Knowing your strengths is a direct reflection of comparing yourself to others. Amanda suggests how our weaknesses are always demanding our attention and we can find these flaws when we compare ourselves to other people. However, when you can focus your energy on what you do best instead of what you do wrong, you will be able to build a life around them that you can cherish forever.
Sit down and write out some things you do well. Maybe you’re good at cooking or public speaking, whatever it is write it down because not only do you need to know what these strengths are, you must be able to build on them.
Muscle is made when resistance is given. You pull the weight up, and while it might be hard to do, the more you do it, you will find the less resistance you have because you are building muscle. One of the ways you can build on your strengths is by engaging with like-minded people who are trying to build the same muscles as you.
A way you can do that is through the ‘She Did It Her Way’ Online Summit with Amanda Boleyn, which can help you attain a better mind, body, and spiritual confidence as a woman.
More than likely you have more to do today than you can handle. It’s just the way you roll. You are a woman who can handle a lot of responsibility. Actually, a lot of people are counting on you to do your job correctly today. However, there’s one person you may be forgetting in that mix, and that is YOU. Break out of the box of your mundane ritual today and start applying these tips Amanda Boleyn has offered to satisfy every woman who feels like they need a break.