Have you ever felt stuck? That feeling of wanting to achieve more but being too scared to leave what’s comfortable and easy?
Many of us are in consistent sway between these two types of feelings. The idealistic want for more whether it is more freedom, more opportunities or more of any other type of thing. Then there is the other feeling the need to stay safe, stay where we are and stay comfortable. We’re in a constant flow between these two feelings and is the roadblock between your goals and success.
As humans, we’re physiologically primed to stay away from difficulty. Our bodies tell us to be safe and by all means, don’t do anything that puts you at risk. This is thanks to our evolutionary history, specifically our amygdala located in our brain, which produces the fight or flight response when we’re faced with a stressful situation. These physiological traits stop us from going outside our comfort zone but we know there are people who have broken out of those traits. Those people are role models and teach us how to be different.
I spoke to one of those people her name is Jennifer Spencer and she shared with me how she went from the safety of her 9 – 5 role to leading her own media and PR company.
Jennifer at age 23 was living the good life by the standards of what was expected by society the go to college, get a job, keep it scenario but she had the feeling of always wanting to do more. This is how she overcame her feelings of safety and passivity to achieve what she has wanted to do for a long time.
Start a side-hustle
Jennifer began finding her passion and enjoyment outside of her 9 – 5 role by pursuing extra work slowly.
“I exposed myself to work outside of work. I started to craft my own job based on my skillset, not based on what my employer listed in a job description. I was most passionate after work hours when I was working on what I enjoyed. Storytelling, brand marketing, and PR.”
This is important to realize that you don’t need to go all in when you’re looking to make changes to your life. To move past the feeling of scared and stuck the best way is to start slowly and move towards your goal. One step at a time.
Expose yourself to change
If you want to do something you’ve never done before, you’re going to need to do things differently from how you’ve always done them. Changing your environment is the next step to creating success to achieve your goals.
Jen explains how she made the move.
“Upon receiving a job offer at a tech startup across the country in Silicon Valley I felt this leap of faith would be the right move. I see it as a stepping stone to where I am today. It expanded my mindset, pushed me out of my comfort zone, and I met some really incredible entrepreneurs in the process.
It sounds like a big, fancy move to Silicon Valley, but it was definitely an adjustment. Apart from being a 6 hr flight from everyone I knew. The first six months I slept in bunk beds in a house for startup founders. While working at the tech startup I continued to grow my PR business and build my network and in January I moved into full-time entrepreneurship.”
As quoted by Jim Rohn “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with”. It’s come to a point of cliche in entrepreneurship but if you want to be successful you need to partner with people who want the same thing.
Use Gratitude When Times Get Tough
Things are always going to get hard when you’re beginning to make the change.
You’ll lose friends, you’ll face doubt and you’ll be judged on your failures, not the effort you’ve applied. The goal is to be ready for these types of setback and Jennifer explained how she moved through the difficult periods.
“I list 10 things I am grateful for each morning can make an incredible difference. It seems so simple, but it literally changes the way you think (and relatively quickly!).
I’ve also found that taking action before you feel like it can help you get “unstuck.” When you are stuck in a negative spot it can be hard to motivate yourself to even begin. Start and the feelings and motivation will follow.”
Gratitude is an incredible tool for putting your efforts into perspective. When things are difficult it’s always important to be grateful for what you have as opposed to what you don’t.
Persistence and Perspective
When you’re moving from your comfort zone and chasing your goals and combatting that voice in your head the one that’s saying “You’re not ready” remember to push through this. Your goals are going to be difficult to attain but it’s better to try as opposed to do nothing at all.
Here is what Jennifer wants to share with anyone who is trying to make an impact on the world.
“Be persistent, constantly learn. If you don’t know something, research it and find out. No matter what you do don’t be afraid to ask and once you ask don’t be afraid to follow up.
That is not to say giving is not important. By all means give, give, give, but if you have a story to share with the world make it your duty to do so 🙂
You never know who will benefit from your message.”
These are words that we all need to implement in our own lives to make the most of our time on this planet.