I preach self-love and self-acceptance to whoever will listen, but sometimes taking my own advice can prove to be a little more difficult. I am my own worst critic in every aspect of my life and sometimes it serves as motivation, but other times, I can also be my own worst enemy. I am a work in progress in every aspect of my life and this includes some of my achievable body goals.
1. Not giving a flying care what size pants you wear
Because really, what girl owns pants that are all the same size? Some days it’s easier finding a needle in a haystack than finding pants that fit and don’t cost you an arm and leg or two legs considering how much jumping I have to do to try to get into what I thought was my size at one store, but not at this one or the other one. Don’t even get me started online. So here’s my #1 one body goal this year: just find pants that fit without caring what size they seem to be advertising. At the end of the day, it really doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is that they fit and you feel good about yourself in them. Choose to love your body RIGHT NOW. As is. No questions asked. If you don’t love yourself and your body right now, you won’t love it 10 lbs. from now. Or two sizes from now. Or a flat stomach from now.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others.
This isn’t just a body goal, but more of a life goal. You don’t know what others have gone through to get to the point where they are, the same way a lot of people don’t know what you had to go through to get to where you are. It doesn’t matter what people post on social media, we all have things that we choose not to share with the world and because of this, we have to stop comparing ourselves to others and where they are in their lives. Don’t compare your start to someone else’s middle. You’re on your way, so focus on your own path.
3. Stop comparing yourself to your past self or future non-existent self.
You are who you are this moment. There’s no use in dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. It’s OK to have plans, but don’t obsess over things that you have no control over. Also, don’t freak out if you make mistakes, just give it your best.
4. Love yourself.
Love yourself on days when your hair just won’t do the thing you want it to do. Love yourself on the days when you got dressed in the dark. Love yourself in the moments when you changed outfits 24 times. Love yourself in the uncomfortable and in the could not care lesser moments. Just learn to like yourself a little more each day because you’re stuck with yourself for the rest of your life.
5. Turn the negatives into positives.
I don’t know exactly why or when we started to believe the commercials and advertisements that told us we needed to change. I don’t know when I decided that I didn’t like the things that I don’t like about myself. I hate that I feel this way and I want it to stop. I don’t know why certain things about my body are negative, so I’ve decided that they aren’t anymore until further notice. Everything about me is cool and nice because I’ve decided it is. This means that anything negative someone else has to say means nothing because it really does mean nothing. We’re all just skeletons, covered in skin, and stuff, and doing our best with the time we have on this earth. So, I’m going to stop worrying about my stretch marks and waist size and go out and do stuff.
6. Being honest with yourself.
This means that if I to want to get up and run 3 miles and I can, I will. This also means that when I’m falling asleep mid-sentence I need to learn to sleep. This means being honest with my limits and being honest when I’m limiting myself.