And Why You Need To Stop
I learned a lot about making the most out of life when I was faced with circumstances that made me question what I thought was most important in my own. There are instances that force you to wake up and realize that the way you’re living is probably not the best way and it’s definitely not the only way. These are just a couple of the ways I’ve observed we ruin our own lives on a daily basis and why we need to stop.
1. Prioritizing busy
I don’t have a middle name because if I did it would probably be busy. I have so many goals and things I not only want to accomplish but I feel like I need to accomplish so that I feel like I’ve done enough. That in itself has ruined a lot of things in my life. I have to constantly remind myself that there’s a difference between doing enough and doing too much and I am constantly doing too much. You can’t live life on busy mode forever and one day something will happen that will cause you to reevaluate your life and the way you spend your days. I’ve crashed into that day about twenty times already and I’m grateful for it every time it happens. Being busy is fine, but it’s a distraction and it’s a hassle and it’s not worth your mental health and your happiness. There’s more to life than the end goal. There’s a whole journey, we just have to remind ourselves of it every once in a while.
2. Texting your ex
Just don’t do it. They’re an ex for a reason. There’s nothing there to dig up, there’s nothing there to go back to. If it was meant to be it would have been and clearly it wasn’t. Move on.
3. Half a**ing everything
This has been a lesson for me. I’m not an open person and I don’t like giving my all to anything. This includes work, school, and people. I’m done with it. I want to say I did my best because I did. I want to say I have no regrets because I did it all and I said it all. I refuse to half-ass anything in my life anymore. There’s more to be learned from going all into everything you do. Yeah, it’s scary as all but it’s also way worth it. Everything is more honest when your entire heart is in it.
4. Never prioritizing yourself
When you fly on an airplane, the flight attendant instructs you to put your oxygen mask on first before helping others. If you run out of oxygen, you can’t help anyone else with their oxygen mask and that helps no one. This applies to everything in your life.
You deserve the love and care that you give to everyone else in your life. You deserve to be cared for and loved the way that you care and love everyone else. You can also not take care of anyone if you don’t take care of yourself first. Take yourself out to movie dates, get an extra hour of sleep, and say no to things you genuinely have no interest in. You will be with yourself longer than with anyone else. Learn to take care of yourself.
5. Letting fear win
Life is scary and there are so many things that will scare the crap out of you before you even get to them, but those things are usually the most worthwhile. Take the leap of faith, say yes to that trip or that job, and buy that red shade of lipstick. Do what scares you so you can say you did it, despite being terrified. Fear only wins if you let it and you cannot let it.
6. Living in the future/past
You are here right now. I know how comforting it is to live in the idea that things will get better, but they can only get better if you work on them right now. Everything that you’re doing is leading up to your future. Do not get lost in the tangled web that is the road to success. There is no real road. Success is what you make it. Some days, for me, success is just barely making it to class because I had to get an iced coffee. Success changes every once in a while and that’s ok. Change is good. Do not get stuck in the past and what happened to you or what was done to you. You have made it this far and you are here. Be here and make the most of it.
7. Not going after that dream
Some of us choose the reliable path. We choose the job that will pay the bills but that shouldn’t come at the loss of your dream. We all have those things that we always wanted to do or become when we’re kids. Go to work and make the money, but then go home and work on your dream.