We’ve all been there. A slump of a few days (or weeks) where everything just seems to bring us down and down. For me, it was a bad relationship. For you, it could be work, family issues, or virtually anything else. Unfortunately, between work related stress and all the other things going on in our lives, we tend to forget that happiness is such an important aspect in staying healthy and living a full life. It isn’t your fault; it’s normal to forget to prioritize an emotion in your day to day life when you’re trying to reach deadlines or please everyone around you.
Finding happiness begins with finding yourself.
And not in a total-yoga-namaste kind of way (unless that’s your thing), but in a way that truly helps you figure out who YOU are. A lot of times, we tend to ignore what makes us happy while attempting to please everyone around us. This includes bosses, employees, loved ones, etc. It could even be happening subconsciously, until one day it hits you in the face. Ouch.
Enough is enough.
If you’re relating to this, it’s time to sit down and have a long talk with yourself. I suggest you do this in private so people around you don’t think you’re a psycho who’s talking to herself. Or don’t. Sometimes we need a little crazy in our lives.
Write down what exactly makes you happy, and go down your list to see how many of those things you’re actually doing on a regular basis. If it’s less than half, it’s time to make a lifestyle change. Talk to those around you and let them know what’s going on. If you start realizing it’s someone who isn’t allowing you to be the happy woman you deserve to be, let them go. Make these necessary changes sooner rather than later so you can start living your happy, healthy life right away.
You shouldn’t have a job that makes you unhappy (or leave behind things that make you happy for the job), and you definitely should not be in a relationship that doesn’t make you 110% happy.
Find happiness in things, people, or activities that make you feel complete. Start reading again, pick up your old favorite hobby, or go back to the gym. Your happiness list should be almost 100% checked off- meaning you’re incorporating these things into your routine. Think of a time when you were genuinely content and go back to it.
Clear skies ahead: keep your happiness.
Now that you’ve remembered those things that bring you joy, start doing them again. Go on a trip, visit the beach, or go make a new friend. Leave yourself reminders around your apartment to smile and be kind to others. Once you begin adding those things into your routine, you’ll start radiating happiness- and others will feel it too.
Get out of your slump and start feeling like yourself again. Do all you can to go back to the strong, happy woman you once were; and if you can’t do it alone, don’t be afraid to ask for help. A wise woman once said, “shine bright like a diamond,” and that’s only possible once you you go back to being genuinely happy.