Reflection: Top 3 Lessons I Learned This Year

As 2016 comes to a close these next couple of weeks will be a time of reflection for most. I learned a lot of lessons and received many blessings this year. Here are the top 3 lessons I learned and which I’ll be taking with me into 2017!

Top 3 Lessons I Learned This Year

lessons I learnedLesson #1: It’s OK to End Relationships.

One lesson I’ve learned this year is it’s okay to put an end to situations that no longer serve their intended purpose. This goes for business, but also your personal life.

Sometimes things change in relationships and partnerships. Trying to hold on to things that are expired exhausts tons of energy. Sometimes things naturally run their course and in those moments it’s okay and necessary to let go.

It’s perfectly fine to let go of what keep you stagnant. Each encounter has the potential to teach you something new.

Don’t let the connections you make with people be in vain. Definitely learn the lessons, but know when it’s time to keep it moving.


Lesson #2: Manage Expectations.

The next lesson I learned this year has been learning to manage expectations. This is not only what you expect from other people, but also what others expect from you.

I’ve never really believed in having low expectations to spare myself from being let down. For me, that’s the mentality that leads to settling for less. So I maintain high standards for myself and anyone I’m interacting with.

Well what about disappointment; doesn’t that suck?

Of course it does, but the challenge here is not to become jaded. Through each experience we learn about ourselves. Through disappointments we learn what to look for and what to avoid. We see the signs. In most cases I can spot the red flags clearly and early.

In the same vein, it’s important to manage what others expect of you. This is a part of being impeccable with your word and delivering on your promises. Don’t say you can do something you’re not willing to do. Don’t overextend. Do accept responsibilities that you are capable of and help you grown. Become a person who does what they say they will and does it well.


Lesson #3: Focus on Yourself.

The final lesson is simple. Focus on yourself. This one is major but if you can apply it for even a short time, it will be amazing.

I’ve have been one of those “selfless” people who’s willing to sacrifice myself for the greater good. A martyr of sorts really. While that seems noble it can have the complete opposite effect.

lessons I learned

You cannot give your best to others if you aren’t paying enough attention to yourself. Are you getting enough rest? Are you saying “no” when necessary? Do you commit to things that are good for your own journey?

Also, focusing on yourself can come in many forms. You don’t have to cut everyone off necessarily. But if that’s what it takes to be your best self you may want to strongly consider.

Focusing on myself has allowed me to align with others who share my vision. It has also helped me see opportunities for what they were. In some cases, drowning out the outside influence can help you make better decisions. It forces you to think for yourself, and focus on your purpose.

This year has been great for learning new lesson and reinforcing old ones.

The past 366 days have been pretty amazing. Even when life wasn’t going “according to plan” great things were happening behind the scenes. I’ve learned a lot in general but also a great deal about myself.

As the end of year approaches and you start to think of resolutions for 2017 pay attention to what you’ve learned this year. How have you grown this year? What lessons will you be taking into the new year with you? Share your lessons with us!


Tiffanie Bernard

Tiffanie is the Founder and CEO of Embodi Collective, THE place for all things indie, plus size and dope! We’re pretty sure that she was born with the creative bug. As long as she can remember, she’s had a huge passion for designing and creating. Her most recent endeavors have lead her to women's fashion. Tiffanie understands the importance of developing your own personal style and how difficult it can be to find the right pieces to bring it all together. Embodi Collective is the answer to that need.

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