Whether it’s your personal life, your career, or something else, bad days are bound to happen. And when it comes to a bad day, when it rains, it pours. It’s so easy to get stuck in your own funk of feeling frustrated, but thankfully there are a couple of things you can do when you find yourself in this situation.
“It’s okay that I’m frustrated, and I recognize these feelings.”
I think far too many people try to hurry through the process of feeling uncomfortable or any emotions outside the spectrum of joy. No doubt, it’s aggravating when you have a bad day. But trying to act like it’s not happening means you’re now acknowledging your feelings.
Everyone deserves an opportunity to slow down and recognize those feelings because you’re human. You’re not a failure because you’re having a bad day or because you’re wallowing in your feelings a bit.
If your feelings persist for days or weeks, it’s time to take bigger action steps, but for one day, it’s best to just close up your office and take a break. If you can’t use a sick day or break away for a little bit, carve out whatever time you do have in the middle and at the end of the day to relax. Sometimes seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and thinking about that nice glass of wine you’re going to enjoy when you get there can help you push through.
Acknowledge the feelings and their validity. Then do something to get out of your funk. Listen to your favorite song. Cue up a quick bit from The Office to make you laugh. Laughter and music are two great ways to snap out of it and remind yourself there are good things out there in the world.
“I have absolutely, 100% got this.”
This sounds silly, and yet I say it all the time. It’s kind of a “fake it till you make it.” When I start feeling overwhelmed or wondering if I’m going to miss a deadline or whether what I’m submitting to someone is good enough, I repeat this mantra over and over again. You can actually trick your brain into getting it together so you can push through whatever is right in front of you.
The back of your brain might not completely believe you when you start repeating this, but the more you say it, the more you can convince yourself. Confidence is so key, even more so when you’re staring down a nasty deadline or when you’re questioning your own ability. When there’s something pressing and you just don’t have the time to flounder around feeling badly about things, repeat this out loud five times. Psych yourself into doing it. Imagine that wine at the end of the day. Sometimes you can turn your entire day around just by hacking your brain like this.
“I have a failproof success rate of getting through bad days.”
If you’re alive, guess what- you have a 100% success rate living through bad days in the past. Depending on how old you are, you’ve probably been through several dozen or more already. Own that.
This probably won’t be your last bad day, either, but don’t give up the power you do have. The only thing you can control in a situation where it feels like things are spiraling out of control is your own reaction. What techniques have you used to support yourself in the past? Taking a break for a run? Turning off your email for a few hours? Lunch with a friend? No matter what works for you, if it worked before, it can help lift you out again. Don’t get caught up in all the drama that is just so tempting with a bad day- you’re stronger than that.
The best way to snap out of a bad day is to commit yourself to how you’ll respond. Stand strong. Make yourself laugh. Repeat mantras until you’re actually starting to believe them.
You’ve got this, girl.