“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” – Steve Jobs
Now I’ve more life experience, I finally understand what the Steve Jobs’ quote truly means. Everything happens for a reason, so it’s important to trust the timing of your life – as cliched as that may sound.
As successful women, we often spend time fretting that things aren’t happening as fast as we’d like. Hurry up. I want it now. Girl, pause. Imagine how much more fun we’d have if we let go and let the magic of life unfold? Living in the moment, with faith that everything will work out the way it’s meant to. Any other way is just too stressful.
Trust the Timing of Your Life
Here are some of the big life events I’ve experienced, that didn’t make sense to me at the time but as I look back and ‘connect the dots,’ I realize how key it is to trust the timing of your life because it’s all part of a bigger plan.
In 2010 I was working an unfulfilling 9 to 5. My boss was a manic depressive and the morale of my team was low as a result. I remember waking up one Monday morning thinking: ‘Forget this! I don’t need to deal with this negativity.’ So I quit. The following day I booked a one-way ticket to Rio. I had the most amazing experience traveling Brazil for a month. I made amazing friends and I felt fully alive. I realized that by staying in an unhappy work situation I was stifling my growth. I didn’t see it then, but the brave decision to go against the grain was preparing me for my move to New York from London two years later.
That New York Trip
I visited Brooklyn for a family wedding in 2011. It was during fall, my favorite time of year to be in New York. I spent a Saturday afternoon doing the annual brownstone tour and got to explore the beautiful homes of some of the local residents. One of the homeowners was a guy from London who told me how much more opportunities he was able to create since moving to New York; a hustler’s paradise he said. That simple conversation triggered something in me and the seed to move was planted.
Impromptu Invite to Toastmasters
A few years ago, a work colleague at my job in London, invited me to Toastmasters, the international public speaking and leadership training program. At the time, I had no idea what Toastmasters was but I knew that I didn’t particularly like talking to large audiences. But after going to Toastmasters a few times, I got such a buzz from talking to the room full of strangers. I began to let go of the fear. Fast forward a few years, the public speaking skills I learnt at Toastmasters have helped prepare me for the big speaking engagements I now do on a regular basis as an entrepreneur.
Moral of the story: No experience is ever wasted. Whatever you’re going through right now, good or bad, trust the timing. The process is preparing you for something even better.
What events in your life have taught you to trust the timing of your life? I’d love to hear from you.